The surefire way to avoid the hassles of the HOA is to not buy in a covenant controlled community. Nobody’s forced to buy in a particular area, or to buy at all. If you buy into a covenant controlled neighborhood, YOU have decided to limit your “rights,” not the HOA.
The next best way is to get yourself on the board … and guess what? It won’t be difficult, because everyone loves to complain about the volunteers who work on the board but hardly anyone wants to get involved.